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Are you a Claimer or a Blamer?

Posted on Sep 06

I’ve recently been watching some of the re-runs of the comedy show “Little Britain”, and you may or may not be a fan of it but I’m sure that you have encountered many such as the teenage character Vicky Pollard played by Matt Lucas.

I know I have, both when I was a teacher and in business!

Vicky’s inevitable reply is “ Yeah but…”,” No but…”, “ Yeah but…” and she always has excuses and seeks to blame someone else for whatever has happened. She is a blamer.

The approach I use with my Personal Peak Performance Coaching clients is one that is underpinned by the basic principle of cause and effect.

Are you at the cause of everything that happens in your life  – in other words are you a claimer ?

or are you at the effect of everything that happens to you  i.e. a blamer?

“ 99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses”

George Washington Carver, Chemist

Those at the effect side of the equation (blamers) won’t have results but will always have reasons and excuses for why they don’t and these may seem to be very real and valid.

“It would have been a great meeting if only the manager had been in a better mood”

“ We can’t do that because our clients won’t like it ”

“ If only X had done as I told her there wouldn’t be a problem”

And one I hear regularly… “ The presentation would have been much better if we’d had more time”.

Those at effect point at something either inside or outside of themselves over which they have no control and that will be the excuse that keeps them boxed in to the present situation.

And it is sometimes nice to have reasons or excuses but ultimately it is frustrating and stressful when we don’t get the results we want.

Being at cause is a belief that we create our results either through our actions or our non-actions.

We are responsible for all of the results that we get in our lives even if it seems to be those things that are outside our control (claimer).

Now it doesn’t matter whether this is true or real.

If you act as if it is true, you will get better results as a result of it.

But this is not about beating yourself up when you don’t get the results you want because then you are blaming yourself and then you are just at effect.

Being a claimer is about having a mindset that says “everything is my responsibility, but nothing is my fault” and then acting as if it is true.

So which side of the equation are you on?

Are you a claimer or a blamer?

In the next two weeks, whenever you begin to find yourself making excuses or blaming others for the results that you are getting, stop and ask yourself the following questions:

  • How did I create this result?
  • What was it I did or didn’t do that caused it to happen?
  • What do I want to create instead?
  • What do I need to do differently to get the result I want?

because once you begin to adopt this mindset it gets rid of boxed-in thinking and empowers you to get exactly the results you want to achieve.

Until next time,

With best wishes for your success,

Cath

Cath Daley Ltd.

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Posted on Sep 06 in Business Networking, Business Pitching, Business Presentations, Coaching, Communication skills, Presentation Skills, Public Speaking


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